Long Distance Relationships

So as funny (or not funny) as this may seem I contacted and ex boyfriend of mine in need of some blog ideas and he shot this one out to me "long distance relationships".   Ironically enough he was the first boyfriend with whom I had to make a long distance relationship work.  He stated it as so: "funny how you can say you've dated someone long distance for 3 years but probably only been with one another for a total of 60 days, a dumb concept if you think about it".  *Shout out to my ex for NOT thinking about it like this while we were together, moving on...  Consider half of my relationships have been long distance, it really had me thinking.  What the H E double hockey sticks was I thinking?

There's definitely something to be said about those who decide to engage in long distance relationships.  Crazy? Maybe just a little.  In fear of close objects (as Jay Z would put it)? Perhaps.  How about a simple connection with one another that is worth holding on to regardless of distance, age, or location. 

My first long distance relationship was with a man a year younger than me who attended UMiami.  I can remember countless arguments about stupid face book posts and drunk calls at 3am expressing my deep hatred for him.  In the end we brokeup (no I dont have a #whenwebrokeup TT for him) ironically enough when he came back to Boston and not while he was away.  Truth is when you enter a long distance relationship you go from 0-10 in a matter of days.  While average (average being a half hour drive) relationships can spend time together or aprat whenever they feel like it, those who engage are stuck with one another for days at a time especially if your flight isn't until a few days later.  Long distance relationship couples usually end up spending anywhere from 2-5 days consecutively together.  Talk about moving fast huh?

There tend to be more arguments and trust issues.  Although my first long distance relationship didn't work out *tear* it proved to me that when you love and care about someone you go above and beyond for them.  We were both in college spending every last penny to visit one another each month and made sure we made the best of it for those few days. Point blank I don't believe that long distance relationships are a complete waste of time.  While couples with "normal" relationships enjoy the ease of being in close proximity to one another (one of the attraction laws of the UNIVERSE!) couples who engage in long distance relationships have to work harder and truly prove their love for one another other than just being physical.

Peace, Love and Happiness

What happened to the good ol'days?

As I sit here watching the Chronicles of Narnia with my younger brother and sister my step father comes into the room and asks "What is this movie about?", after a brief explanation he proceeds to ask "So all of this happens in some imaginary world?", my sister quickly responds with a "Yes daddy, use your imagination!".

Use your imagination, well gotdayum when was the last time I was asked to use my imagination for anything?  Remember being a kid and using your imagination for just about everything?  We would be trapped on the moon with space aliens who wanted to capture us, but suddenly out of nowhere we'd plunge into the ocean and make friends with an octopus who saved us from the evil king lizard.  I mean, things like this came easy and life seemed so much more fruitful then.  Of course we grow up and the sum of our adult life begins to burden us.  Its the real world people! Now we have colleges to get into, bills to pay, rent that's due, car payments, friends and family who depend on us and not to mention a soul mate to find (don't mind me, I'm a helpless romantic).

All I'm saying is if everyone took some time to use their imagination for other than just "let's play nurse and doctor" (great use of imagination by the way, with your soul mate of course) then perhaps our lives would be a bit more enriched.  As adults, in this innovate world, we are required everyday to use our imagination and not only develop but solve problems all the time (and if your job isn't pushing you to think outside the box you my friend need a change ASAP).  As young adults we are entering new worlds each day and for some of us this adaptation is quiet easy but for others the difficulty lies right where it all started, our imagination.   Next time you walk into that interview imagine that you have already been hired.  Instead of walking into a staff meeting that has continuously been frustrating for you over the past few months imagine things going smoothly. Exercise this part of your brain on a daily basis and I can assure you a happier and healthier life.

"Imagination is more powerful than knowledge for knowledge is limited." -Albert Einstein

Back at it Again

HELLO WORLD!!!

I've deleted all of my old posts and started fresh. I was going to be very discreet about this blog but that's not the type of person I am.  Don't get me wrong, I'm a pretty private person but for the most part I enjoy sharing my stories and adventures while also getting a chance to read those of others.  It's a great way for me to reflect, a form of learning if you will.

If your reading this blog you probably found the site through twitter or facebook so thanks, and I hope you comment and enjoy it as much as I'll enjoy sharing some of my life with you.

I recently moved from Boston, MA to Orlando, FL.  I can confidently say I am comfortable with the move but haven't had a chance to settle in, leaving me a bit worried and concerned about future plans. As some of you may know I went from spending 4 years of my life living on my own to moving in with my mother, stepfather, 2 brothers and sister (just for the time being until I start my job and get an apartment).  The other day I was stuck in the bathroom with 4 of them and was a bit annoyed to say the least.  I guess I threw privacy out the window when we made that 24 hr drive here.

I'm doing well, and taking this time to relax and reflect.  The older I get the more time I'm spending on reflecting and growing into who I want to.  I love reflecting but at times I wish I could turn it all off.  More often than not this "reflecting" feels like prison as I go far too deep into thought leaving myself trapped by a multitude of emotions and ideas that most time shouldn't even exist. Can you relate? How do you just tell your brain to stop analyzing everything around you?  Oh bless the soul of the man I will one day marry.

Peace, Love, Happiness