So I’ve recently started dating again (I don’t know why I say again because its never again it’s always just dating I’m just learning how to take things easy and not go from friend to girlfriend in t-7days) and one of the guys I’m dating has recently had a child. This isn’t new to me but last time I dated a man with a child I was 19 and he was 10 yrs my elder and made me believe that he was leaving her to be with me (moved in and everything). This man/boy had my heart and soul in the palm of my hands only to find out that he was playing games with the both of us. It was hard for me and at 20 I said goodbye to this 30 yr old man who had toyed with my heart for a year.
blah blah blah years pass and here I am in the same situation
Now let me break it down for you all, this was just suppose to be a simple “hi bye thank you very much” type of situation. Homie had way too much to deal with for me to even entertain anything more between us. Who was we kidding (that southern slang starting to rub off on me) ?
Well here I am dating a man with a 5wk old son who hasn’t been with the mother since pregnancy for understandable reasons, but none that my readers need to concern themselves with.
This past weekend was Christmas and of course I had to take a backseat to his son. Which would have been fun had his mother not been all up in the mix, but the kid is 5 weeks and she’s afraid to leave the baby alone with his father just yet and I honestly can’t blame her.
Having to be patient and wait to see what happens is bothersome. Perhaps because I am a control freak and I like knowing whats next. Once things get started on a certain path I like to keep them on that path. I don’t want to bring any added stress to home boy’s life right now so I’m just letting this ride and doing me in the mean time but goodness is it hard.
I believe that it is much different to date a mother with kids than it is to date a father with kids. How often and how the parents interact play a major role in the situation as well. I cannot work on anything close to falling in love with this man if he’s busy falling in love with his son. Neither would I want to get in between that. I believe that it is very important for him to build a relationship and be around his son as much as he wants/needs. But being around his BM? That doesn’t sit well with me… who am I to say what though, right?
Have you ever dated a man/woman who recently had a kid? How did you feel about it? Pro’s Con’s?
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