I recently had a conversation with my cousin about relationships and the intrigue of the "chase" and "bad boys". It went a little something like this:
Cousin- "Amanda, why are women into the bad boy?"
Amanda- "Honestly I don't think its the "bad boy" we're into, it's the mystery of what we don't know. If you can uncover a layer each time you're with that person the more you want to be around him/her. I also don't think I can be tamed by just about anyone, I'm a bit of a problem ( hence the twitter name @ima_problemm), so those who can capture my attention deserve every second of it. Why do you ask?"
Cousin- "Because I treat this lady right, told her exactly how I feel and she's not feeling the same way, but she's giving me all the signals"
(typical "just want to be friends because you don't give me that ooOoo aaaHHhh feeling")
Amanda- "Well then you need to ignore her and move on. NEXT!"
Cousin- "You sound like this book I heard called The Game, this guy lets out all the tricks of the trade and what you described is something like a "neg".
(light bulb!)
I went out the next day to buy the book (I needed a new book to read anyways) and started immediately. Here was my thinking behind it; I'll read the book learn the rules and then flip them. Not that I'm trying to play games (left those days back where they belong) or a pimp...
"A pimp is someone who solicits clients for prostitutes for the interest of money... I'm just trying to get my groove on" in the words of Bill Bellamy
...but I was curious to see what this book was all about and compare notes. Look at me as Katrina from "How to be a Player" interested enough to get right to the ledge but I won't jump... (Sorry Katrina)
So here's the book in a nutshell:
1. Select a target- If I have to explain this part to you then you need to leave this blog site now...
2. Approach and Open- This is the most important part of introducing yourself to a female. It should take no more than 3 seconds after she's noticed you noticing her to approach her and her friends. You need an opening "Have you seen that new movie (insert movie that you googled that same evening here)?"
3. Demonstrate Value- You must represent value to your target, show her that you're the one everyone wants to be around and that you could potentially be a great life partner (what *every woman wants)
4.Disarm the Obstacles- This doesn't mean just boyfriends but "cock blockers" and "over protective male friends" better known as "the one's waiting till she is drunk enough so they can get the go because they wouldn't get the go on a sober night"...
5. Isolate the Target- Again another self explanatory one but you do this by intriguing the female... magic tricks and deciphering writing things of that nature (that make you appear interesting) really help with this...
6.Create and Emotional Connection- This is my favorite because although my major is psych I never thought of people using conditioning in dating situations. You basically condition your "target" to feel a good feeling whenever they think of you by using an object or hand motion (quite genius if you ask me)
7.Extract to a Seduction Location- Again if you read this one and you can't seem to figure it out go visit another site please and thank you....
Really the rest of the steps are self explanatory and if you can't get her to step number 8 then you should reevaluate your target or your approach and start over.
What I learned after reading most of this book is that it's a scam. Yup I'm calling Neil Strauss out and telling him "you're a genius and you got my money but all in all this book will only get you laid". Sorry guys the best way to get what you want is to reflect that person in your actions. There are so many sites and classes that offer you insight into what the opposite sex wants and how to become that perfect partner, but the reality of it is if you play the game you will attract players. If you are just you, you will go on to find real people who want nothing more than to be comfortable around someone and connect. Too much shit of bulls going on nowadays in regards to love and searching...
Yup that's just about it. All of these things are cool and have proof behind them and I believe WILL get you laid but that's where it ends.
*every- please do not take this literal
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